{"id":12224,"date":"2026-09-05T09:00:00","date_gmt":"2026-09-05T06:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.inekle.com\/?p=12224"},"modified":"2026-09-02T01:21:42","modified_gmt":"2026-09-01T22:21:42","slug":"cocugum-ders-calismiyor-veli-rehberi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.inekle.com\/cocugum-ders-calismiyor-veli-rehberi\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c7ocu\u011fum Ders \u00c7al\u0131\u015fm\u0131yor: Velilere 10 Ad\u0131ml\u0131k Rehber"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Ders \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmayan \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n b\u00fcy\u00fck k\u0131sm\u0131 tembel de\u011fildir; nereden ba\u015flayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilemedi\u011fi, ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z olmaktan korktu\u011fu ya da konuyu anlamad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in masaya oturmaz.<\/strong> Bu y\u00fczden “otur \u00e7al\u0131\u015f” bask\u0131s\u0131 \u00e7o\u011fu evde i\u015fe yaramaz: sorun istek eksikli\u011fi gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcrken asl\u0131nda bir t\u0131kanma noktas\u0131d\u0131r ve o nokta bulunmadan hi\u00e7bir program tutmaz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00d6nce nedeni bulman\u0131n yolunu anlatt\u0131k, sonra evde uygulayabilece\u011finiz 10 ad\u0131m\u0131 s\u0131ralad\u0131k. En sonda da hangi durumda d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan destek alman\u0131n do\u011fru oldu\u011funu yazd\u0131k.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Evde
Foto\u011fraf: Gustavo Fring \/ Pexels<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

\u00d6nce te\u015fhis: \u00e7ocuk neden \u00e7al\u0131\u015fm\u0131yor?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

“\u00c7al\u0131\u015fm\u0131yor” tek bir davran\u0131\u015f gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr ama arkas\u0131nda birbirinden \u00e7ok farkl\u0131 sebepler vard\u0131r. Yanl\u0131\u015f sebebe \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm \u00fcretmek, durumu k\u00f6t\u00fcle\u015ftirir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Belirti<\/th>Muhtemel sebep<\/th>Yanl\u0131\u015f tepki<\/th>Do\u011fru ilk ad\u0131m<\/th><\/tr>\n<\/thead>\n
Masaya oturuyor ama saatlerce ilerlemiyor<\/td>Konu eksi\u011fi, anlamad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in t\u0131kan\u0131yor<\/td>S\u00fcreyi art\u0131rmak<\/td>Hangi konuda tak\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 birlikte tespit etmek<\/td><\/tr>\n
S\u0131nav yakla\u015f\u0131nca daha da uzakla\u015f\u0131yor<\/td>Ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131k korkusu, kayg\u0131<\/td>“Bu gidi\u015fle kazanamazs\u0131n” demek<\/td>Beklentiyi k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcltmek, ilk hedefi kolayla\u015ft\u0131rmak<\/td><\/tr>\n
S\u00fcrekli telefon\/oyun<\/td>Anl\u0131k \u00f6d\u00fcl al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131<\/td>Telefonu tamamen almak<\/td>Kullan\u0131m saatini birlikte kurala ba\u011flamak<\/td><\/tr>\n
“Zaten olmuyor” diyor<\/td>\u00d6\u011frenilmi\u015f \u00e7aresizlik<\/td>Ba\u015fkalar\u0131yla k\u0131yaslamak<\/td>K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ve \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fclebilir bir ba\u015far\u0131 \u00fcretmek<\/td><\/tr>\n
Sadece baz\u0131 derslerden ka\u00e7\u0131yor<\/td>O derste birikmi\u015f eksik<\/td>T\u00fcm derslere ayn\u0131 program\u0131 yazmak<\/td>O tek derse hedefli destek<\/td><\/tr>\n
Gece ge\u00e7 yat\u0131yor, g\u00fcnd\u00fcz dalg\u0131n<\/td>Uyku d\u00fczeni bozuklu\u011fu<\/td>Ders saatini art\u0131rmak<\/td>\u00d6nce uyku saatini d\u00fczeltmek<\/td><\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Te\u015fhis i\u00e7in en i\u015fe yarayan soru “neden \u00e7al\u0131\u015fm\u0131yorsun?” de\u011fil; o soru \u00e7ocu\u011fu savunmaya itiyor. Bunun yerine: “Bug\u00fcn a\u00e7t\u0131\u011f\u0131nda en zor gelen hangisiydi?”<\/em> Cevap genellikle tek bir dersi ya da tek bir konuyu i\u015faret eder ve sorun oradan \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fclmeye ba\u015flar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Evde i\u015fe yarayan 10 ad\u0131m<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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  1. Konu\u015fmay\u0131 ders d\u0131\u015f\u0131 bir anda yap\u0131n.<\/strong> Masa ba\u015f\u0131nda ve gerginken yap\u0131lan konu\u015fma pazarl\u0131\u011fa d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr; arabada ya da yemekte yap\u0131lan konu\u015fma i\u015fe yarar.<\/li>\n\n\n
  2. Hedefi k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fclt\u00fcn.<\/strong> “Bu hafta matemati\u011fi bitir” de\u011fil, “bug\u00fcn 10 soru”. Beynin tamamlanma hissine ihtiyac\u0131 var; k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck hedef bu hissi \u00fcretir.<\/li>\n\n\n
  3. Ba\u015flama e\u015fi\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr\u00fcn.<\/strong> En zor i\u015f ba\u015flamakt\u0131r. “Sadece 10 dakika otur, sonra b\u0131rakabilirsin” kural\u0131 \u00e7o\u011fu \u00f6\u011frencide 10 dakikay\u0131 40 dakikaya \u00e7evirir.<\/li>\n\n\n
  4. \u00c7al\u0131\u015fma yerini sabitleyin.<\/strong> Ayn\u0131 masa, ayn\u0131 \u0131\u015f\u0131k, ayn\u0131 saat. Ortam sabitlendi\u011finde karar verme y\u00fck\u00fc ortadan kalkar.<\/li>\n\n\n
  5. Telefonu odadan \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131n, yasaklamay\u0131n.<\/strong> Ayn\u0131 odada sessizde duran telefon bile dikkati b\u00f6ler. Ama tamamen yasak, gizli kullan\u0131ma ve g\u00fcven kayb\u0131na yol a\u00e7ar.<\/li>\n\n\n
  6. S\u00fcreyi de\u011fil, i\u015fi \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcn.<\/strong> “\u00dc\u00e7 saat oturdu” bir \u015fey s\u00f6ylemez. “12 soru \u00e7\u00f6zd\u00fc, 4’\u00fcn\u00fc yanl\u0131\u015f yapt\u0131, ikisini anlad\u0131” \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fclebilir bir ilerlemedir.<\/li>\n\n\n
  7. Yanl\u0131\u015flar\u0131 birlikte g\u00f6zden ge\u00e7irin.<\/strong> Yanl\u0131\u015f analizi yap\u0131lmayan \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma, ayn\u0131 hatay\u0131 tekrar \u00fcretir. Haftada bir kez 20 dakikal\u0131k yanl\u0131\u015f defteri yeterli.<\/li>\n\n\n
  8. K\u0131yaslamay\u0131 kesin.<\/strong> Kuzeniyle, karde\u015fiyle, s\u0131n\u0131f birincisiyle k\u0131yaslama motivasyonu art\u0131rmaz; \u00e7ocu\u011fu “zaten olmuyor” noktas\u0131na ta\u015f\u0131r.<\/li>\n\n\n
  9. Uyku ve yemek d\u00fczenini \u00f6nceye al\u0131n.<\/strong> Yorgun bir \u00f6\u011frencinin verimi d\u00fc\u015fer; program de\u011fil dinlenme sorunudur. D\u00fczenli uyku, eklenecek her ek \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma saatinden daha fazla net getirir.<\/li>\n\n\n
  10. Haftada bir 15 dakikal\u0131k de\u011ferlendirme yap\u0131n.<\/strong> Ne iyi gitti, ne gitmedi, gelecek hafta neyi de\u011fi\u015ftirece\u011fiz? Tek bir \u015fey se\u00e7in, fazlas\u0131 zaten uygulanm\u0131yor.<\/li>\n\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
    \"Masas\u0131nda
    Foto\u011fraf: https:\/\/kaboompics.com\/ \/ Pexels<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

    Ya\u015fa g\u00f6re yakla\u015f\u0131m de\u011fi\u015fir<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    \u0130lkokul (7-10 ya\u015f)<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    Bu ya\u015fta hedef akademik ba\u015far\u0131 de\u011fil, al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k. G\u00fcnde 20-30 dakikal\u0131k sabit bir rutin, iki saatlik d\u00fczensiz \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmadan k\u0131ymetlidir. Ebeveynin yan\u0131nda olmas\u0131 normaldir; \u00f6devi yapmak de\u011fil, yan\u0131nda oturmak.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Ortaokul (11-14 ya\u015f)<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    Sorumluluk devri d\u00f6nemi. Plan\u0131 \u00e7ocu\u011fun kendisinin yazmas\u0131, ebeveynin yaln\u0131zca haftal\u0131k kontrol etmesi gerekir. LGS haz\u0131rl\u0131\u011f\u0131 8. s\u0131n\u0131fta yo\u011funla\u015fsa da al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k 6-7. s\u0131n\u0131fta kurulur; o y\u0131llarda kurulmayan d\u00fczen 8. s\u0131n\u0131fta panikle telafi edilmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131l\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Lise (15-18 ya\u015f)<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    Bu ya\u015fta do\u011frudan m\u00fcdahale ters teper. Ebeveynin rol\u00fc denet\u00e7ilikten kaynak sa\u011flay\u0131c\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131na d\u00f6ner: do\u011fru \u00f6\u011fretmen, do\u011fru materyal, sessiz ortam, sakin ev. Hedefi \u00e7ocu\u011fun kendisi sahiplenmiyorsa hi\u00e7bir program y\u00fcr\u00fcmez.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Yap\u0131lmamas\u0131 gerekenler<\/h2>\n\n\n\n